Couples Therapy
That Works
Couples Therapy
That Works
Here's the heart of the matter.
You’ve made great efforts to fix your relationship on your own, and yet you’re still struggling and suffering.
You’ve read the books, listened to the podcasts, studied the Medium articles, and done the exercises—and yet you keep running through the same negative cycles with your spouse. The truth is, you can’t heal your relationship yourself because you can’t see the whole of the relationship system when you are one of the two people creating the dynamics. When you’re one of the trees, you can’t see the forest.
Until you can properly see that it’s always an “us” problem—never a “me” problem or a “you” problem—you will just be treating symptoms.
And you will never heal the system. But through couples therapy with an Empathi therapist, you will get to deeply know the whole of your relationship system, including the underlying trauma which causes you to get caught up in defensiveness, blame, and endless cycles of conflict.
In a series of sessions designed to address the needs and nuances of your situation, your Empathi therapist will guide you from conflict back to loving connection.
The other reason it’s so important to have an expert therapist guide the repair process is what we consider the paradox of couples therapy: you and your partner are desperately trying to move away from your suffering, but the path to healing is to go deep into those uncomfortable feelings. You can only learn to truly love and be there for one another by working through the muck of those uncomfortable feelings together.
Face-to-face sessions with an Empathi therapist are at the heart of our couples therapy services.
Each session is 60 minutes long and is conducted once per week. If high-stress circumstances arise in your relationship, your therapist can arrange to provide sessions that are longer or more often.
Please know that our goal is to complete your couples counseling in a short timeframe—we want to get you to a place where you don’t need any further therapy as soon as possible. The reality is that our therapy practice grows and thrives when we successfully graduate couples—so they refer us to friends and give us great reviews—not by keeping them in therapy any longer than needed.
Clinical research shows that 86% of couples improve after a brief period of EFT guidance, and 73% have maintained their improvements when we check back two years later.
Empathi's Methods
are proven to help
Clinical research shows that 86% of couples improve after a brief period of EFT guidance, and 73% have maintained their improvements when we check back two years later.
With Empathi Couples Counseling You Will…
- Stop having the same argument(s) over and over again
- Return to a deeper level of intimacy
- Recover from an infidelity or another breach of trust
- Work on your relationship even though your partner doesn't seem available
- Feel more secure in your sex life
- Navigate life transitions from a place of connection and understanding of each other
- Reduce the frequency and intensity of communication breakdowns
Stop struggling. Book your call now.
Now is the best time to strengthen your relationship
Empathi's Couples Therapy Process
Your expert counselor is here to guide you back to connection using Emotionally-Focused Couples Therapy and the Empathi Method.
Acceptance The hardest part is just
getting started.
getting started.
Healing starts with accepting you need help, booking a free consult, and showing up as you are. Everything that comes next will be easier as you're held by an Empathi therapist and a proven process. From now on, you're not alone in this.
Alliance Feel like you're on the
same team again.
same team again.
Explore your process and discover a unified narrative where neither of you are wrong or right, “the good one,” or “the bad one.” Learn to approach suffering and conflicts as an “us” problem instead of a “them” problem or a “me” problem.
Empathy See the hurt and love behind their reactivity.
Strengthen your new narrative by accessing empathy to recognize the root of each other’s reactivity, how much you matter to each other, and what love is. Understand the cycles you get into with the help of your expert Empathi counselor.
Vulnerability Share the hurt and love behind your reactivity.
Get to know, live in, and share your vulnerable feelings. Then, learn to let in the ways that those feelings are understood and accepted by your partner through the power of the Empathi method and Emotionally-Focused Couples Therapy.
Connection Feel deeply and securely bonded to one another.
Mend your relationship and your wounds through the understanding that you matter to each other. Learn to grieve, show up for, heal, and accept the most vulnerable parts inside of each other without sacrificing those parts in yourselves.
Resilience Rely on your bond to get out of stuck moments.
Having proved your ability to resolve long-standing issues, heated conflicts, and negative cycles, face your future together with a certainty that you will not only survive those moments, but grow stronger and more connected because of them.
Acceptance
The hardest part is just getting started.
Healing starts with accepting you need help, booking a free consult, and showing up as you are. Everything that comes next will be easier as you’re held by an Empathi therapist and a proven process. From now on, you’re not alone in this.
Alliance
Feel like you're on the same team again.
Explore your process and discover a unified narrative where neither of you are wrong or right, “the good one,” or “the bad one.” Learn to approach suffering and conflicts as an “us” problem instead of a “them” problem or a “me” problem.
Empathy
See the hurt and love behind their reactivity.
Strengthen your new narrative by accessing empathy to recognize the root of each other’s reactivity, how much you matter to each other, and what love is. Understand the cycles you get into with the help of your expert Empathi counselor.
Vulnerability
Share the hurt and love behind your reactivity.
Get to know, live in, and share your vulnerable feelings. Then, learn to let in the ways that those feelings are understood and accepted by your partner through the power of the Empathi method and Emotionally-Focused Couples Therapy.
Connection
Feel deeply and securely bonded to one another.
Mend your relationship and your wounds through the understanding that you matter to each other. Learn to grieve, show up for, heal, and accept the most vulnerable parts inside of each other without sacrificing those parts in yourselves.
Resilience
Rely on your bond to get out of stuck moments.
Having proved your ability to resolve long-standing issues, heated conflicts, and negative cycles, face your future together with a certainty that you will not only survive those moments, but grow stronger and more connected because of them.
Answer Your Couples Therapy Questions
Opening up to a stranger about relationship difficulties isn’t easy. Why don’t we go first?
Yes. We at Empathi believe that most couples can make their romantic relationships, friendships, and relationships with themselves better through skillful and compassionate counseling. This belief is founded in direct experience, respected insight, and extensive research.
Our methods tend to work just as well for low and high-conflict couples, across a range of relationship difficulties.
Your Empathi therapist will work with you to build a roadmap that suits your needs, no matter the circumstance. The process is what transforms you and makes the outcome possible.
Our methods tend to work just as well for low and high-conflict couples, across a range of relationship difficulties.
- They just can’t seem to stop arguing
- The relationship’s “spark” is lost
- Growing distance and lack of affection
- Recovering trust after infidelity
- Struggling with addictive behavior
- Conflict over parenting style differences
- Preparing for marriage
- Long distance relationship strain
- Financial hardship and disagreements
- Sexual and emotional intimacy changes
We even offer individual relationship counseling if your partner isn’t open to therapy. (Tip: try getting them to just one therapy session.)
Your future isn’t set in stone. There’s no way of knowing exactly how you and your partner will feel when you close your chapter with Empathi. But our counselors do know healing is possible—they’ve seen it first-hand, time and time again.
In recognizing you’re suffering and seeking out help, you’ve already taken the first step. It’s okay to let in a little hope right about now, it will help you take the next one.
Our evidence-based Empathi Method, selective hiring process, and emphatic 5-star track record may speak for themselves. But they don’t have to. Give us a call at (416) 967-3447 or schedule a free consult to get to know our process and our people directly.
In addition to being licensed counselors, our therapists go through the Emotionally-Focused Therapy certification process and partake in weekly training sessions with Empathi founders and master therapists Figs O’Sullivan and Teale Taxis.
Discover more about our therapists’ qualifications and areas of expertise here.
Couples counseling can extend anywhere from one highly-productive session to a years-long relationship, but the Empathi Method is specifically designed to prepare you to function happily without our help as soon as possible.
To experience the benefits of Empathi counseling in your relationship even sooner, start today.
Let’s start with what success isn’t: never fighting or suffering with each other again. Not only is that an impossible goal to strive for, it can lead to unhealthy suppression and denial in the name of maintaining an artificial peace.
Truly successful relationships are built on resilience: an ability to bounce back from hardship and hurt, more connected and more trusting of each other. “The magic is in the repair.“
If you and your partner are suffering in love, Empathi can help you become stronger than ever.
Still have more questions? Check out our policies and fees page or schedule a free consult and one of our therapists will answer your questions directly!
We are passionate about healing relationships.
- Feel safe to be your true self in life and love.
- Heal from recent or past grief and loss.
- Connect in a deeper and more authentic way.
- Stop having the same argument(s) over and over again.
- Avoid being disappointed in each other so much.
- Recover from infidelity or other breach of trust.
- Get back to more joy, laughter, and fun together.
- Work on your relationship even though your partner doesn't seem available.
We’re 5 Stars On Yelp!
Why Yelp Chooses Empathi Couples Therapy
Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT) provides our team at Empathi with an understanding of the emotional bonds between partners so that we can identify and work toward moments that strengthen and harmonize that emotional connection.
We use attachment-based frameworks to understand the ways very early bonds inform our adult behavior and choice of partner, as well as the ways our relationship with our partners inform how we understand those early bonds today. Being in a committed partnership then becomes more than just an agreement between two lovers – it is a healing art, a restorative power in the lives of both individuals.
Seeking the safety and containment of professional psychotherapy is a monumental first step on the road to turning painful patterns into a productive partnership. Committed exploration and a willingness to be curious and vulnerable about what is motivating one’s own behavior, reactivity, patterns, and choices can bring about positive change for your relationship – whether it’s steering a particular issue, transitioning toward compromise, or simply bringing about a newly deepened sense of passion and commitment.
"With Empathi, Figs has created a fun and creative way to help people feel more connected in their relationship and to become acquainted with the transformational power of Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy."
Dr. Sue Johnson
Creator of Emotionally-Focused Therapy for Couples
It's quick, easy, and free
to get started!
Between the emotional hurdle of accepting you need help and the logistical nightmare of finding a therapist you trust, actually starting couples therapy is the hardest part…
That’s why we keep it simple:
- Pick a date & time for your free consult with an Empathi counselor.
- Show up for the call. Explain your circumstances and needs.
- Book a first session with the right therapist for your price point and situation.
- Show up for your first session.
- Start feeling better!
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Empathi's
Therapy Services
Find the right counseling services for your situation.
Marriage Counseling
- Recognize the negative cycles you create together.
- Stop being so disappointed in each other.
- Connect in a deeper and more authentic way.
- Get back to experiencing joy, laughter, and fun together.
- Empathize with each other around stressful conflicts
- Learn to weather difficult times together.
Couples Therapy
- Stop having the same argument(s) over and over again.
- Recover from infidelity or other breaches of trust.
- Return to a deeper level of intimacy.
- Work on your relationship even though your partner doesn't seem available.
- Navigate life transitions from a place of connection and understanding of each other.
Couples Therapy
for Parents
- Learn to navigate parenting style differences.
- Get "unstuck" from disconnected routines and repetitive arguments.
- Get back in touch with a genuine appreciation for each other.
- Feel like you're on the same team again.
- Build a secure foundation your kid(s) will come to for support and look to as a model.
Individual Relationship
Therapy Services
- Break out of cyclical relation.ship issues through individual exploration
- Work through the unresolved trauma that's holding you back.
- Discover effective treatments for depression with the right ally and guide.
- Heal stubborn and pervasive self-esteem wounds.
- Become all you can be through a process of self-reclamation.